We were young and both had our issues, and we’re both better off separated.

I’ve found a new relationship (when you find the right person, you understand why it didn’t work with anyone else) and I’m in a much better place overall.

She’s now a he (FtM trans) and is much more stable as a result. He’s a teacher at a school in a city 4.5 hours away from me, and has remarried.

I consider myself an LGTBQ+ ally, and I fully support my ex’s right to transition and be recognized as his preferred gender. And I can still say that my ex wife was a manipulative piece of work who left scars on me, so I just don’t want anything at all to do with him, even if he’s better.

He deserves happiness, but he can be happy over there, 4.5 hours away.

I have been coerced before, by my ex wife.

Long story made short, if she wanted sex and I didn’t, and I said no, it would always pan out the same way. We’d start at “Did I do something wrong?” And end up at “everyone hates me and I should just go ahead and kill myself.” So I stopped saying no even if I didn’t want to, because honestly it was faster to just give her what she wanted.

As a man, it feels so minor compared to what everyone else will associate with sexual abuse, but my therapist tells me abuse is abuse and that nobody would question it if the genders were reversed.

It’s had effects even 5 years after we’ve separated, but I’m getting better. Learning to take up space again.

My honest problem with AI is the hallucinations.

They’ve been shown to be a mathematical inevitability, and that means everything they ever make must be fully reviewed.

And that’s antithetical to everything I’ve known about computers in my career.

The entire reason why computers are so useful and reliable is because, until now, they always produce the same outputs given the same inputs.

One of the AI agents I’ve interacted with was in a GPS monitoring system for fleet vehicles. I was a supervisor of technicians, and I got a report that a company truck with license plate [X] ran a stop sign.

They replaced their standard search function with an AI bot, so I asked it which vehicle in the fleet had license plate [X]. And it confidently responded with a vehicle that didn’t have that license plate.

A standard search function, comparing an input to database values for vehicles wouldn’t have that problem. And that’s why I’m so sure this is a bubble and not a major technological market disruption.

Let’s say for a moment that AI really is as capable as AI bros want you to believe it is. Having used some AI models at my work (network engineer), I’m not so convinced, but I’ll put that aside for a moment.

The pinch of the AI vise is going to be the cost. All the AI companies are running at loss to try and capture the market, and they’ll need to charge a lot more for access to AI once a winner is determined.

Are you willing to pay 10x what you pay right now for access to an AI agent? Because that’s looking like what they’ll have to do in order to turn these companies profitable.