Seems preƭƭy normal ƭo me.

Is this incest? *gestures at butterfly*

It’s a complicated problem. Part of it is that Amtrak is so broken that people wonder if it’s even fixable.

I recently went to a concert in another city for my birthday. I looked into what Amtrak options there were, because I get panic attacks in traffic, and they only offer overnight service, with a middle of the night swap from bus to train. It also would have cost $250 round trip for two tickets vs <$100 in gas to drive, and taken 12 hours vs the 7 to drive.

So instead of taking the extra time off work, we wound up driving, and I had multiple panic attacks instead.

Another part of the problem is that the US likes to talk about whether or not people deserve transit options. Like, my local bus only comes by four times a day between 6am and 6pm, but because I live in a low-income area, I apparently don’t even deserve a bench at the bus stop.

I’m nonbinary AFAB, and I personally think that accusations done through the legal system are rare, but I also think that social accusations and “jokes” about somebody’s character are much more common than we want to talk about.

Another thing that we don’t talk about, is that social accusations don’t only come from people you’ve slept with. My partner and I once had to deal with some guy spreading rumors that I was being repeatedly raped and am too brainwashed to leave. We had to cut a lot of people out of our lives because they spread the rumor without checking in on me at all. It seriously hacks me off that they called themselves “feminist”, while clearly not caring about the well-being of victims of sexual violence, because somebody that actually has feminist praxis would have offered help to an alleged victim. They didn’t actually care about women, just spilling tea. Turns out that guy was telling on himself anyways, because now his ex-wife has a restraining order against him, but the rumor still occasionally pops up in the most aggravating places.

And it’s infuriating, because I was raped by a boyfriend in high school, and molested by a babysitter as a toddler, but wasn’t taken seriously for either of those. Now people are so totally onboard to believe the fiction that I want it, and I can’t even.

I used to work in a hotel, and they never provided any training about any of that.

So hard and hot and fast 🥵🥵

Only one of them involves a real hammering.