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Most people don’t know how to self-host. Most people don’t know what self-hosting is. Most people don’t know what hosting is.

This post is a prime example of a weird logical fallacy that seems to permeate the tech world in particular, and which goes something like this:

1. For me, this task is trivial.
2. That is because I have spent a lifetime developing the knowledge, skills and experience to make that task trivial.
3. I lack the self-awareness and intellectual honesty to understand that.
4. Therefore, I assume that anyone for whom this task is not trivial is simply lazy, and has only themselves to blame for their failure to perform this task.
5. Therefore, I am very superior and very smart.

What a horrible thing to say.

You all will NOT gaslight me into thinking I’m insane. You. Will. Not.

Nobody is gaslighting you. You asked for advice. The fact that you don’t like the advice you’re getting probably means you need to hear it all the more.

I’m horrified and appalled by how the community perceived my intentions; at large, judging by the number of votes on comments in the conversation below, placing no doubt in them being nothing more than sick and twisted desire for attention

You might want to think about that a bit.

If you’re honest with yourself - really, really honest - you will see that your desire to tell them is motivated by your own vanity and desire for attention. You’re doubtless imagining some big scene in which either they fall into your arms or in which you get to stride off into the sunset as some kind of noble self-sacrificing hero while they wonder what might have been. Don’t fall into that trap. It’s childish, and it’s selfish, and it’s getting into some really dodgy territory that ends with the manosphere and incels and all that. Just keep your counsel, and move on.