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  • This is often why when I first hear an accusation of rape, My first thought is: “Well, shit. Someone’s life is ruined.” I don’t know who, immediately; the leaning is very much towards the accusation being correct. But I reserve full wrath of judgment until some circumstantial evidence can support it. Sadly, I know we usually won’t see 100% undeniable smoking gun evidence.

    We did in the case of Cornell, which made all controversy fucking disgusting.







  • Katana314@lemmy.worldtoMicroblog Memes@lemmy.world•Dating advice
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    Please do not move forward in your life assuming that women are subtly signaling to people that they are welcoming being objectified and sexualized.

    Okay, I’m through with this. I in no way said, or implied, this statement, even going so far as to make the opposite stance, and I’m done trying to express that here.


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    A woman knows that:

    Obviously, peering at someone’s ass can lean towards creepy or voyeuristic.

    (The part of the quote you snipped out). Bending over is easier, but many women change to squatting, a trickier action, specifically because of how they’re viewed when doing so.

    So, if a woman is in the vicinity of a guy, and chooses to bend over, she’s communicating that she at least trusts that person enough not to ogle or objectify her. Guys don’t experience a lot of trust from women in the modern day (generally for understandable reasons) so it’s touching for them to know when people feel safe around them.

    I’m sorry that wasn’t communicated well; but I appreciate you asking for clarification.



  • That’s not really what I meant; just that passed-down wisdom often leads women to caution each other it’s a common (albeit undeserved) consequence.

    I wrote “Not anticipating his objectification” rather than “Not looking” because it’s often difficult to specifically make sure someone is fully outside your field of vision the moment they reach for something on the ground.


  • I’ve felt the same way about women bending over.

    Obviously, peering at someone’s ass can lean towards creepy or voyeuristic. Any woman knows this - many changed over to squatting to pick things up even when alone. So, if she’s okay with a full bend, even if the guy barely even looks, it’s a separate “trust kink” - that she knows he’s there and doesn’t anticipate his mind objectifying her that way.