This false narrative that you’re helpless to try when depressed needs to end, its needlessly self limiting. The only reason my life is good now is because I took steps I had to that i didnt want to. People can encourage others and we can recognise how difficult it is at the same time, they are not mutually exclusive.
I got out of severe depression by trying and keeping at it to do these things I didn’t even believe could help me anymore. Surprise, they did. Yes it took long and was hard. But it is possible to do even a little bit.
The part telling me I can’t do it and saying I shouldn’t even try cus I won’t do it anyways, that is part of the depression too. It is self sustaining.
In my mind the trick that worked was: if everything is shit no matter what, if I hate every second anyways no matter what I do, if nothing will change how miserable I am, then taking a short walk won’t change anything for the worse either, not to any significant degree anyways.
That way bit by bit my absolute apathy tricked itself into doing things because it didn’t matter either way. And slowly shit got tiny bits better.
The advice works, but only if you have the strength to do it and not everyone does.
Realize that some of these aren’t just decisions you have to get right every day (like walking every day), they’re decisions you have to get right 86400 times a day. If you crave junk food, you don’t just decide “I’ll stop eating it”, you have to make that decision every second of every day, because if you slip once, you’re fucked. It gets easier, sure, but the first days/weeks are brutal.
My depression, gives me insomnia. My insomnia gives me anxiety and worsens my depression. Be your own best friend and go easy on yourself. You wouldn’t let others talk to your friends like you talk to yourself. On good days, make sure you do all those things. On days you don’t feel like, push to do as many as you can and know it’s ok if you don’t. On bad days, acknowledge your wins of getting out of bed and brushing your teeth if that’s all you could accomplish. You don’t have to be perfect. You just have to keep going and get back to it.
I’ve had major depressive for most of my adult life. No rhyme or reason for it, just shit brain chemistry. Finding the right medication and walking or cycling really helps.
For me, Desvenlafaxine was the right meds for me, your mileage will almost certainly vary though.
Action precedes motivation. If you wait to be motivated, actions won’t happen. Even if it’s starting small like brushing your teeth, or any act of self care or hygiene that makes you feel better physically
First, these ladies aren’t doing anti aging surgeries, they are doing “have a different face” surgeries.
Second, the only way to win at the “wOmeN sHouLd jUSt aGe GrAceFullY” bullshit is to know that there is no winning.
You will be accused of “letting yourself go” or “getting too much work done.” Period. There are like 12 women in the world at any given time who will age in a way that is aesthetically pleasing to the majority, and you probably won’t be one of them.
So pick which you are more comfortable with and do what ever the fuck you want.
PSA: if you want to age well:
wear sunscreen
eat fruits and veg, avoid sugar as much as you can
do some form of cardio(walking is perfectly fine, you just want to get your heart going)
Do some form of resistance training.(calisthenics, lift a litre bottle)
Sleep around 7 to 8 hrs
You’ll not only be the hottest 60 or 70 year old, you’re quality of life won’t degrade much.
My mental health is too poor to be able to do any of those.
Just gotta start. Its hard I know but once you go, its easier.
Thank you
“Have you tried not being depressed?”
This false narrative that you’re helpless to try when depressed needs to end, its needlessly self limiting. The only reason my life is good now is because I took steps I had to that i didnt want to. People can encourage others and we can recognise how difficult it is at the same time, they are not mutually exclusive.
I got out of severe depression by trying and keeping at it to do these things I didn’t even believe could help me anymore. Surprise, they did. Yes it took long and was hard. But it is possible to do even a little bit.
The part telling me I can’t do it and saying I shouldn’t even try cus I won’t do it anyways, that is part of the depression too. It is self sustaining.
In my mind the trick that worked was: if everything is shit no matter what, if I hate every second anyways no matter what I do, if nothing will change how miserable I am, then taking a short walk won’t change anything for the worse either, not to any significant degree anyways.
That way bit by bit my absolute apathy tricked itself into doing things because it didn’t matter either way. And slowly shit got tiny bits better.
The advice works, but only if you have the strength to do it and not everyone does.
Realize that some of these aren’t just decisions you have to get right every day (like walking every day), they’re decisions you have to get right 86400 times a day. If you crave junk food, you don’t just decide “I’ll stop eating it”, you have to make that decision every second of every day, because if you slip once, you’re fucked. It gets easier, sure, but the first days/weeks are brutal.
My depression, gives me insomnia. My insomnia gives me anxiety and worsens my depression. Be your own best friend and go easy on yourself. You wouldn’t let others talk to your friends like you talk to yourself. On good days, make sure you do all those things. On days you don’t feel like, push to do as many as you can and know it’s ok if you don’t. On bad days, acknowledge your wins of getting out of bed and brushing your teeth if that’s all you could accomplish. You don’t have to be perfect. You just have to keep going and get back to it.
Oof, I don’t have friends. The friends I did have years ago were terrible, though, I don’t miss them.
I’ve had major depressive for most of my adult life. No rhyme or reason for it, just shit brain chemistry. Finding the right medication and walking or cycling really helps.
For me, Desvenlafaxine was the right meds for me, your mileage will almost certainly vary though.
Walking really helps my mental health. To be fair I live near the beach so it very relaxing.
Action precedes motivation. If you wait to be motivated, actions won’t happen. Even if it’s starting small like brushing your teeth, or any act of self care or hygiene that makes you feel better physically
Alright, now solve that for executive dysfunction
First, these ladies aren’t doing anti aging surgeries, they are doing “have a different face” surgeries.
Second, the only way to win at the “wOmeN sHouLd jUSt aGe GrAceFullY” bullshit is to know that there is no winning.
You will be accused of “letting yourself go” or “getting too much work done.” Period. There are like 12 women in the world at any given time who will age in a way that is aesthetically pleasing to the majority, and you probably won’t be one of them.
So pick which you are more comfortable with and do what ever the fuck you want.