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The only time I’ve been irked enough to make an account to comment directly on the article.
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Starting the article with, “Looking for a kinky Christmas gift for your terminally online gay friend this year?” And then quoting Allen with,
“For me, toys can help you to better understand your body and learn what you like,” feels tone deaf and pretty disrespectful. You don’t have to be gay to like anal play, and to start the article with that statement is more likely to make those that are not gay, or maybe even questioning their sexuality feel shame. You could have simply left out “gay” from your sentence altogether and it would have been fine and still a reasonable statement to make, but by having “gay” as part of that sentence implies that if you’re not gay, sexual exploration is not for you- or even that if you do like anal play you must be gay. Please consider your word choices more carefully in the future.
I really don’t see a problem unless you equate being gay with being bad or undesirable in some way. Who’s reading an article about butt plugs and only feels shame in their interest when gay people are brought up?
It doesn’t have to be seen as bad for it to be undesirable. I’m straight, but I have plenty of gay friends and hold no ill-will towards any sexuality. I’m not trying to become gay though, so it isn’t desired or, to use another word, it’s undesirable.
I also don’t really have any interest in buying a butt plug, at least for myself. Equating it as being gay makes it sound like it’s something I shouldn’t want, which there’s no reason for that to be true. Even though I don’t want it, there’s no reason I shouldn’t want it.
I think you’re mistaking 4chan or some right-wing only social media site for Lemmy.
It makes no sense how you could have that experience here, a place that’s filled with lgbtq+ people.
No you’re thinking of “alpha bros” on tik tok or Twitter. They legit believe wiping your ass after you shit is gay since you are technically touching a man’s ass. No they won’t use a bidet either.
The only time I’ve been irked enough to make an account to comment directly on the article.
Save you a click: Starting the article with, “Looking for a kinky Christmas gift for your terminally online gay friend this year?” And then quoting Allen with,
“For me, toys can help you to better understand your body and learn what you like,” feels tone deaf and pretty disrespectful. You don’t have to be gay to like anal play, and to start the article with that statement is more likely to make those that are not gay, or maybe even questioning their sexuality feel shame. You could have simply left out “gay” from your sentence altogether and it would have been fine and still a reasonable statement to make, but by having “gay” as part of that sentence implies that if you’re not gay, sexual exploration is not for you- or even that if you do like anal play you must be gay. Please consider your word choices more carefully in the future.
I really don’t see a problem unless you equate being gay with being bad or undesirable in some way. Who’s reading an article about butt plugs and only feels shame in their interest when gay people are brought up?
It doesn’t have to be seen as bad for it to be undesirable. I’m straight, but I have plenty of gay friends and hold no ill-will towards any sexuality. I’m not trying to become gay though, so it isn’t desired or, to use another word, it’s undesirable.
I also don’t really have any interest in buying a butt plug, at least for myself. Equating it as being gay makes it sound like it’s something I shouldn’t want, which there’s no reason for that to be true. Even though I don’t want it, there’s no reason I shouldn’t want it.
Why are you surprised. According to lemmy, if you wash your asshole in the shower then you’re gay.
Where on Lemmy has anyone ever said that.
Eh, in some someone at some point has said that.
So what, there are dumb folks everywhere
I think you’re mistaking 4chan or some right-wing only social media site for Lemmy.
It makes no sense how you could have that experience here, a place that’s filled with lgbtq+ people.
No you’re thinking of “alpha bros” on tik tok or Twitter. They legit believe wiping your ass after you shit is gay since you are technically touching a man’s ass. No they won’t use a bidet either.
Damn! Not again! I did that this morning. Now I must come clean and do jazz hands at opportune moments.